Ask a friend or best friend for three words that they would use to describe you. Are they the same as the ones that you used to define yourself in class? How did this make you feel?
How does how we perceive soemone affect how that person perceives themselves?
Three words that my best friend used to describe me are: loving, beautiful, and amazing. One of them is the same as the one that I used to define myself in class which was loving. This made me feel really happy and made me smile. (The other adjectives I used were inquisitive and ambitious).
ReplyDeleteAnother person's perceptions about another person can affect that person's perception of themselves because they will question who they are and wonder if the way they were described to behave is true. They will seek validation and gain a sense of identity because now they have a word that describes them, though it may be a false sense of identity since other peoples' perceptions may not be true and vary due to their different points of view, opinions, and experiences. Sometimes the way other people think of another person may not phase the person at all because they just don't care, they don't find it to be true, and because they don't want to listen or are not ready to face the truth. Additionally, the person may gain a sense of pride and self-worth or if they feel as though they're outcasts and people treat them with sympathy, they may take solace in the fact that at least one person sees them differently from all the others.
I'll give a personal example from when I attended grade school. At the end of the year everyone signed my autograph book and I put it away. Many years later I unearthed it and decided to take a trip down memory lane and read through it. Kids back then viewed me as "weird", funny, smart, cool, aggressive, strong, confident, tough, and awesome. I laughed especially when a girl told me I should seriously try out for the wrestling team. I also found it amusing when I read everything because the comments were consistent, except for the weird part.
Many people do not know me, and when I say that I mean they don't know or understand who I truly am at heart. Even so, people usually see me in a positive light and it makes me smile and remember who I am, what I'm capable of, and where I'm going.
Three words that my friends used to describe me were organized, thoughtful and friendly. The first two traits were different from the ones I used to define myself in class, however, friendly was the same. In place of organized and thoughtful I had defined myself as a determined and hardworking person. Hearing the way my friends described me made me happy because it makes me feel good to know that they have truly grasped some of the qualities that make up the person who I am. Based on my personality I am a neat freak and I do care for others.
ReplyDeleteThe way that we perceive someone affects how they perceive themselves . If we perceive someone in a positive manor than the person will feel worthy and will gain a sense of pride. All in all, with a positive perception a person will be content with themselves. However, if we perceive someone in a negative manor it will cause the person to begin questioning who they are and wonder if the way they are being described is true. With a negative perception a person will think of ways in which they must change in order to "fit-in" and be accepted /liked by others. Sometimes not realizing that they are perfectly fine the way they are and that all perceptions may not be true because they all differ due to personal opinions and points of view.
When I asked my best friend for three words that described me, she used: trustworthy, supportive and a perfectionist. The words that I used today in class to define myself included: friendly, creative and reserved. I’ve known my best friend for 7 years. I was happy with the terms that she used because it is relatable to our friendship; trustworthy and supportive are both traits we share that allow us to stay close friends. I laughed when she said perfectionist because she does know one of my weaknesses.
ReplyDeleteAnother person’s perception can affect how that person perceives themselves as they reflect back to find reasoning to their answers. It can affect them as they try to come to terms of how others see them. Sometimes it may be anticipated while other times it may be unexpected. It allows them to look at things differently and reevaluate their actions. Receiving outside perspective can sometimes be beneficial as it gives a reason to allow a person to better themselves as an individual.
Three words that I used to describe myself in class today were argumentative, friendly and playful. Three words my best friend used to describe me were compassionate, respectful and responsible. The words I used to describe myself were completely different from that of my best friends’. It made me feel good because they were all positive but it also made me think how I am compassionate, respectful, and responsible. Once I gave it some thought I realized that I am responsible and respectful, more than I give myself credit for. I realized that I can be described in more than just three words and it all depends on how I am with the person I am interacting with.
ReplyDeleteThe way in which others perceive someone can greatly affect that persons’ perception of themselves. In my opinion, I feel that if a person is not really strong minded their feelings would get hurt a lot because they might feel as if the way others perceive them may be true, when in reality people can just be judgmental and cruel. The way someone perceives someone may influence that person to honestly believe that they are what they are said to be. Their self-esteem might decrease or increase, all depending if someone’s view is positive or negative. That person may try to change in order to change another persons’ perception of them because who doesn’t like to be accepted. We all are who we are but sometimes our judgment gets clouded because others see us in a way we’d never thought we’d see ourselves. Sometimes others perception of who we are can be hurtful but not everyone is going to think the same. However, different perceptions from others may cause change in themselves for all the wrong reasons. One would just be changing to accommodate the perception of other people.
The three words I used in class today were bubbly, hyperactive and honest. The words that I got from my friend were different though, they were funny, intelligent and open-minded. It didn't really make me feel any different because I kind of feel that three words aren't enough to describe me, but those words are also part of who I am. I am bubbly and hyperactive and honest, but to other people I am also known as intelligent, even though sometimes I don't believe it. I'm known as open-minded and I'm known as funny. It just means that there are more than three parts of me, three sides, that make me who I am.
ReplyDeleteI think that how we perceive someone else does affect how the person perceives themselves and this is because when someone is repeatedly told they are something, they start to believe it. This doesn't have to be positive, or negative, it can be either or both. Its just a matter of their mentality and how they perceive themselves as well, how we perceive them affects them. If an overly self conscious person is called names, possibly about something they are self conscious about then they may start to believe they are what they're being called, whether in actuality they are or not. Then our influence can change the way the person perceives themselves to match how we perceive them.
I agree that someone's level of self confidence affects how greatly someone else's perception of them changes who they are.
DeleteThe three words my best friend (My mom) used to descirbe me are ambitious, pleasant and intellegent. They are really different than the ones I used in class. I used Intraverted, Honest and Defensive. I feel like I asked my mother she knows me better than anyone, yet I soon realized that how my mother pereives me is not how I perceive myself.
ReplyDeleteGoing off of my example, personally I don't think how others perceive me affects how I perceive myself in the slightest. Of course everything my mother said is true, but today when I shared the adjectives I used for myself, everyone was like "Why so negative?' It wasn't negative to me, thats just honestly how I would describe myself. This just goes to show that I really do not anything about what others think about me. I'm happy about the fact that when I did ask people to describe me it was positive but it still didn't change my perception of myself.
Interesting that your mother sees you in a different light than you see yourself.
DeleteIntraverted? Really??????????
DeleteThe three words my best friend used to describe me were trust worthy, generous and caring. They were very similar words that I used to describe myself, which were caring, sweet and loyal. It made me glad to know that she views me in a similar way that I view myself.
ReplyDeleteHow we perceive someone effects how they perceive themselves in many ways. The way we treat someone effects the way they feel about themselves and their happiness depending on the person. When you tell someone how you perceive them weather positive or negative they start believing it and start viewing themselves in that way.
The Three words my father had used to describe me were as follows; Intelligent, comedic, stubborn. The three words I used to describe myself were Jubilant, intelligent, and funny. Funny and comedic are a match, and so are intelligent and intelligent. The one difference was my personal thought of jubilant, to my father's thought of me being stubborn. This didn't make me feel any other way however, because I know I am quite stubborn.
ReplyDeleteOur perception of other people may affect them in various ways. There are people who may be in self denial about a way they are, such as being loud or stubborn. If you tell someone who is in this denial that they are loud or stubborn, they may either refuse to accept it, and stop showing off those traits, or they may try and change those traits coming to an embarrassing realization that they may have one of those traits. It can go many ways, but those are the most frequent I've seen from personal experiences interacting with others.
Sounds like you are very self reflective!
DeleteThe words in class that I used to describe myself are introverted, complicated, and pessimistic. One of my best friends described me as altruistic, thoughtful, and oblivious.They are completely different from the ones I wrote down in class. However, it does make me good that someone thinks I am thoughtful and altruistic.
ReplyDeleteThe way someone perceives someone affect how that person perceives themselves because it makes the person contemplate their character. If the other person is treating you with respect and dignity, you will feel good about yourself. If the other person or party is mistreating you, then you will feel very isolated and terrible. There is also a connection with self esteem as well. If people treat you very nicely, generally you have a higher self esteem. If people treat you very terribly generally, your self esteem as well as your self expression will not be very high. This is generally the case for most people that I know from personal experience.
The first person I had thought to ask for these three words were my sister because I feel like she is the only person who truly knows me enough to pin down exactly who I am in a mere three words. Those three words were corrosive, sensitive, and dissembler. Although these words are far more introspective and different than I had thought to put down which were nonchalant, creative, and wavering, I hate to say I agree with her.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that my sister said that I am a dissembler really made me upset because I feel as though everything I think or say about myself is not real. I am definitely corrosive, I agree completely with that, I just don't like to admit that I am really destructive whether it is to other people or it is to myself, or both at the same time. I am also sensitive but I have such control over my emotions to the point where I don't even acknowledge them more than half the time because I am a dissembler and I find great safety in being that way. I don't know if these are negative qualities about me but they generally summarize my chameleon personality.
They manner in which people perceive you ultimately affects how a person views themselves. I can assure you that most of us will believe what others feel about ourselves more than the individual. We generally look to others to find our self worth and value. That doesn't mean that we all have low-self esteem or we are weak, it's just human nature. If people see and treat you in a negative light, it'll eventually take it's toll on you. When it does is when you find out who you really are and what your worth depending on how you handle it. Same thing even if it is under a positive light.
This would have been agreat rebuttal to Maha's post. She feels the opposite. Perhaps we can discuss this further in class.
DeleteCorrosive is a strong word. I don't see you in that way but I only just met you so we will see.....
The three words that I used to describe myself were sympathetic, open minded, and quiet. The words that my friend used were introverted, unprejudiced, and humble. My friend knows me pretty well. But she does hold me in a higher regard than I really am. Most times it makes me feel better but there are moments when I feel guilty for having people believe that a minimal trait is a major facet of my personality. For example, my friend thinks that I am humble. However, I just really hate being at the center of any attention or praise.
ReplyDeleteHuman beings are very complicated creatures. We feel more than one emotion when dealing with only one concept. I think for the most part, people begin to believe it themselves when others perceive them a certain way. It really depends on how well you know yourself and your intentions. If you understand why you do or say what you say, then another persons reaction would not affect you as greatly. Also, the way we say things comes our differently from the way we imagine it would sound in our head. When we speak, we may sound serious or comical and not realize it. Some people just have different expectations of others and a small event may either break those expectations or make them.
Three words a very close friend used to describe me was moral, dynamic, and faithful. This didnt match any of the words I had chosen, however, I did choose religious which can correlate with moral. What they chose made me very happy inside because I always strive to be a better character everyday. I'm always trying to bring about a strong positive influence into my surroundings and set a good example. I'm always trying to avoid hyppocracy. I'm always trying to inspire. Therefore, hearing these words made me feel accomplished because this is how I want to be in life and how I want to be perceived. I want to continue to be this way.
ReplyDeleteWhen someone perceives someone a certain way, it can effect how they view themselves as well. If a consensus of people ignore someone, he might feel he isn't good enough. This can be a lasting impact. Honestly, people's can perceive people in a good or bad way but regardless I feel like it will affect the persons of view of themselves. It can gas them up or ruin their self esteem. In the end, people should just adapt to the ability of knowing who you are and not caring what others say. That way you can remain humble and won't be affected by hurtful words. You learn this ability with time and few can accomplish it.
The three words I chose to describe myself in class were competitive, comedic, and optimistic. I had asked my Dad three words to describe me and he said that I am honest, brave, and competitive. I was actually pretty happy when my Dad said that I was competitive because I put that down in class. Also because whenever I do anything that I'm actually trying to do, I want to win, or be the best at it. I think I'm one of those people who hates losing more than I like winning. I was also kind of surprised when my Dad said that I was brave. Not that I never viewed myself as brave, I just never thought I have ever done anything to earn that compliment.
ReplyDeleteHow someone perceives themselves can be affected by how other people perceive them. If society says that someone is an outcast, or left alone for whatever reason, than that person will believe that they are the outcast in society. But I don't think that's the case for everyone, people who have high self-esteem and truly believe in themselves should know who they are. People with low self-esteem and people who find themselves depressed a lot, will just go along with it and not do anything about it. So I do believe that how other people perceive you can affect the way you perceive yourself, but not in all cases.
The three words i used to describe myself were engaging, friendly, and competitive. When I asked Fabian, hes was at a loss of words simply because i am too complex to be described in just three words. Anyways he said friendly, unprejudiced, and Jasmine said funny. Even though two out of three of these don't match my reflection of myself, I think they add on to it.
ReplyDeleteSomeone's perception of them selves can definitely be influenced by others perception of them. But it depends on ones self-esteem to either take it positively or negatively. Some people take those perceptions and if they are negative they will try to improve on it, like me. Or they can take them to heart and really start believing that its something they are born with and can't grow out of it.
One of my friends described me as smart and funny. I didn't really think much of it because I felt they only tried to stick with positive traits to try and preserve our friendship. I wish they would have answered more honestly and with something less general and more personal.
ReplyDeleteOur perception of others effects how they perceive themselves because they'll be more observant of their actions and hesitate to take action.
Although I feel this exercise makes everyone seem slightly pretentious, I also do not feel I am self reflective enough to able to identify my personality with just words. As I am aware of myself and my line of thinking literally every minute of every day, I do not know what my three strongest or most apparent personality traits would be as none of them are really that pervasive. However the words i would use to describe myself would be stoic, amiable and level headed . Since I am responding to this blog extremely late I could not partake in the activity required of asking someone to describe me in three words so I have not the slightest clue on that their response would be, but I'm sure the words selected would have a high degree of variation just based on the sheer complexity of human thought and perception, and other factors such as how long they have known me and how close that person may be to me.
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